Autism and Thanksgiving

 With autism, Thanksgiving can be a bit overwhelming. To best prepare for the holiday, here's some helpful tips.

1. Take the day after Thanksgiving off work. I understand it's Black Friday, but you don't have to shop that day if you don't want to. But it can be a long time to recharge after the holiday if you're tired. It's important to set boundaries for the holiday so be prepared for certain conversations too.

2. Be prepared for changes in a schedule. As someone who's autistic, I struggle with changes in routine especially around the holidays. There might be changes in food options, guests in the home and access to certain personal belongings. Those changes could prove stressful and overwhelming for those on the spectrum.

3. People who are autistic might be picky eaters (guilty as charged). So have food you know you love, or let the host know that you're bringing your own food.

4. Plan ahead. Telling an autistic child that Thanksgiving will be different than a normal Thursday routine is an easy way to prepare for a change in routine. Bring different things from home to make them comfortable like a special interest, a calming item or a favorite piece of travel-sized furniture.

5. Pay close attention to how an autistic individual is feeling. If they feel uncomfortable, don't force them to stay in a certain room or do activities. If they need a break, let them have one. Don't put a time limit on how long an autistic individual or their family should spend with you. It's all about having fun with everyone.

Hope these tips are helpful! Have a happy Thanksgiving everyone!

Halloween fun

 As someone who's autistic, Halloween can be fun but also overstimulating.

One of my friends from high school, Kayla, hosts a Halloween party at her house every year. There's music, treats, and games. It's an adult only party so some of the drinks they have are not for the kids. Kayla knows that I'm autistic and makes sure that if the music got too loud or if I'm overstimulated, I can just go outside to recoup. Kayla's friend Angel helps out with the parties and understands my autism too. She works for a company that provides services for autistic people.

Other Halloween parties can be a bit tamer for those who have special needs

Just this last Thursday, the coaches of the Special Olympics delegation that I'm in, Des Moines Metro Champions, hosted a party at Adria's house. Adria is the founder of the delegation. There was Halloween trivia, a costume contest and a fashion show. My best friend Katie and I were barefoot at the party.

I had a great time at both of those parties. And while there were times when I got a bit overwhelmed by some parts being too loud, everyone understood and let me have my breather space. Even though I portrayed Dracula, his sensitivity to sunlight, garlic, and of course the cross is nothing compared to how sensitive I am to loud noise. But I've gotten better with it over the years.

Hope everyone had a fun and safe Halloween.